Great Dads are like dials on vintage radios

Hey awesome Dad, welcome to Fab Father Fridays. Today is the second in our series, What makes a Dad, a GREAT Dad? Great Dads are like dials on vintage radios- they can tune out, and tune in to maximize the strength of the signal in their relationship with their children. It’s the burden of most Dads, and many Moms too nowadays… a nonstop frantic day of working, and all the stresses and daily fuzz that come along with it…. the busyness of the mind… But the work day ends and you enter the front door of your home….Your body may be present… your mind is everywhere else… It’s hard to tune out of the nagging pressures, intense business demands, vulture-circling thoughts about ‘what’s happening and what happened’… and then the most difficult part for many…. putting down the phone… the ever-connecting umbilical cord to work, to the office, to the stress…. I often hear the excuse from Dads, and Moms speaking in their defense, “I need the phone for urgent calls”, “We’re running important projects- I can’t afford to miss a call”, “I need to know what’s going on all the time”… The same cord that ties us to work is so often a noose around the neck of our relationships with our children… When we can’t tune out from other areas of our lives, despite our presence in a room, it’s like static on the radio… it’s disconnecting, no one notices potentially invaluable messages being communicated, moments are drowned in noise and connection is lost…. Many parents, Dads in particular, feel that their only ‘tune out’ for escaping the days stress is in the static of the latest series episode or sports event… This may be true but remember it comes at a cost…. the tuning in to screens ensures a tune out from our children….What are you most often tuned into? Static or connection? They cannot occur simultaneously… Tune out to the noise of the world… the noise that contaminates your child’s space, the stress, the money, the meetings, the business plans, the tenders, the projects, the social media, the latest ‘Game of Thrones’ episode… Tune out to the parts of your work and life which are interferences… contaminants… disturbers of peace… destroyers of connection and arsonists in your relationship with your child… The ability to do this is hard work… it doesn’t come easily to the busy mind… it takes discipline, perseverance and willpower… because the habitual nature and lure of the noise are strong… When you walk through the front door of your home, consciously change channels… tune out the static… and tune in to connect with your children, your family, the relationships that really matter…. No one can hear what is being said in static, no one feels connection, and our children in particular are so aware of our disengagement. In static we risk missing the essence of who our children are, of what they are communicating to us about themselves, their lives…. Great Dads tune in… and because of this, they are connected to their children, they have strong relationships with them, but most importantly, their children feel loved. Leave the noise behind you…there’s no room for static in your relationship with your child.Be a dial on a vintage radio, Dad, tune out to the noise, and tune in to where it matters most…

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